• Title: Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers
  • Author: Kate Hopper, Hope Edelman
  • Released: 2012-04-17
  • Language: English
  • Pages: 256
  • ISBN: 1936740125
  • ISBN13: 978-1936740123
  • ASIN: 1936740125
Review "Filled with poignant essays and writing exercises, this book is a perfect writing kickstart for any mother."
—Everyday Family

"This kind of sound, practical and sensible advice is Hopper’s forte. Along with her personable insights and enthusiastic coaching, Hopper also includes terrific excerpts from other writers to help illustrate her points, as well as highly effective writing prompts geared towards helping a writer get started and keep going. Like its arch title, Hopper’s book is funny, friendly and approachable. In the way of all good admonishments, the book encourages us to put down the excuses and pick up the pen. And like the best books on writing and craft, it gives us the tools and techniques to do just that."
—Literary Mama

"Kate Hopper wrote Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers to give other mothers/writers the courage to put their own stories on paper and find the most effective way to tell the stories that need to be told. The types of creative non-fiction on which she focuses in her book are memoir and personal essays, or, as she writes, “writing that uses the author’s life to say something about the world in which she lives. Hopper’s tone is very nurturing. She’s authoritative but not condescending. She walks readers through the step-by-step process of writing a memoir— using the same attention, care, and instruction she would use to help her own child with a difficult project. This book is perfect for the inexperienced memoir writer because Hopper uses baby steps to walk the reader through the process."
–Editor Magazine
"It doesn’t matter if you only want to write for yourself or for publication. If you have written before or never have. This book can teach you how to do it or how to do it better."
—Simple Wyrdings

"Hopper has packed her book full of excerpts both heart-warming and painful, by well-published authors who resist the temptation to sugarcoat the endless tortuous pleasure of being a mom. Writers who’ve established a literary career and then birthed or adopted children will find comfort in the excerpts and quotes from women who’ve contributed to Use Your Words. Mothers who find themselves drawn to writing about their family will find the book extremely useful. Final chapters examine how to publish, and how to balance a professional writing life that’s also rich with parenting, household and work duties."
—Literary Duck Blog

"Unlike some writing resources that can come off as somewhat condescending, Hopper's voice is approachable and kind, making this an easy read with clear lessons. The tone is perfectly balanced for those with a wide range of writing experience and ability. Established writers will be reminded to return to and strengthen the basics and those without any formal training will find lessons that are quick to grasp and, with practice, will improve the quality of their work. I found immediate inspiration from Use Your Words to work on my own projects and gratification when Hopper's approach helped me to see areas that I could further develop. Hopper's stated goal is to increase the legitimacy of narratives told by mothers. It seems clear that she wants you to succeed in telling your story and uses a gentle hand to push you to dig deep in order to do so."

"Many of us mama-bloggers have stumbled into our particular subject matter without giving much thought to what we are doing. Luckily for this second-rate Erma Bombeck, the lovely, smart, thoughtful writer Kate Hopper has just published Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers, which offers great guidance for writing about your family."

"Kate dares to remember her own motherhood. She dares you, gently, to own your own words, to realize that you are the only one who can tell your story. Using pieces of her own story as well as perfectly chosen excerpts from assorted mother-writers, Kate has crafted a rare book that calls you to action as a writer and mother and, yes, WITNESS of your own life, of the lives around you. The writing prompts are simple, powerful and compelling. I found myself engaged, completely, in the prose. I’d been stuck for months, my own writing stale and frustrating. A week with Kate’s book and I’d filled a notebook of my own. Her words loosened something in me, as a writer and a mama. I’m grateful for her, and grateful for her courage to document her own amazing path in life. So get inspired. Your story? Guess what: it matters. And Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers will get it out of you and on the page. No kidding. Pick it up. Start anywhere, if that’s less scary. Pick a prompt, and go."
—Breed 'em and Weep

"Kate Hopper puts her expertise as a writer with a MFA in creative writing, Literary Mama editor, blogger, Loft Literary Center instructor, and mother to good use in a guide meant to be underlined, highlighted, reread, bookmarked, carried around, shared, by countless mothers."
—Small Press Reviews

"I can see using this over and over. It is not paced to be read in one sitting. It's more of a workbook that will only help if you sit down and try it....do the prompts. Interact with the essays. Make notes. And go back and do it again."
—The Black Sheep Dances

"Kate Hopper is a seasoned mother, writer and teacher at the highly recommended and respected Loft Literary Center in Minneapolis. Her book, Use Your Words is a unique instruction manual for the mother-writer that wants to write about life and herself through the lens of motherhood. Maybe that’s through a blog or for magazines or a memoir, but whatever the case, I want you to know, this book will help you become the writer you dream of being. It will take you from the beginning to the end of your process with grace and humor. I don’t know about you, but I need direction, a coaxing of sorts, to stay focused on a project. That is exactly what Use Your Words will do for me, and for you."
—The Extraordinary Ordinary

"An excellent resource…[Kate Hopper] probes you to think further, while teaching you how to do it. I really enjoyed this book and will reach for it repeatedly to help me in my own memoirs."
—Planet Weidknecht, the blog of Lisa Weidknecht

"Kate Hopper is warm, encouraging and someone who knows her stuff… For mothers looking to publish or just make sense of a story gestating in their heads, Use Your Words is a good place to start.”
—Brain, Child

"Finally a book to teach parents how to write! In readable, interesting, practical prose, Use Your Words gives moms what they need to know to write about their children's most precious moments. A tremendous resource for bloggers, teachers, lay and professional writers."
—Jennifer Margulis, Ph.D., author of Toddler: Real-Life Stories of Those Fickle, Irrational, Urgent, Tiny People We Love

“Kate Hopper has been a valuable part of our teaching staff since 2006. Her students rave about her, calling her a ‘wonderful teacher.’ She always makes her students feel that their writing is valuable and that their work is important work. She is accessible and friendly and always enthusiastic and supportive of her students. She has contributed to the success of the Loft Literary Center! Her Loft students have said, ‘I loved Kate as an instructor! She was so encouraging and supportive of everyone's efforts, but also very knowledgeable about the craft of writing, as well as prose revision. I would take another class from her in a minute,’ and ‘I've taken many writing classes, and this class was the most supportive, helpful class I've ever had, while still giving extremely helpful critique.’ Kate has so much to share and so many helpful writing exercises.”
—Brian Malloy, Education Director, The Loft Literary Center

"Turning personal experience into readable prose is a daunting process for anyone, and carving out the time to do so isn’t easy with a house full of short people in need of constant attention. In Use Your Words, Kate Hopper offers a practical and accessible roadmap for any mother who’d like to get started. Part instructor, part motivator, part best friend, Kate guides mother-writers from idea through finished product, offering encouragement and hard-earned wisdom along the way. She intersperses poems, essays, and short memoirs by known writers such as Cecelie S. Berry, Judith Ortiz Cofer, and Chitra Divakaruni--and emerging writers from The Loft Literary Center in Minnesapolis--with passages about the craft of writing, and ends each chapter with helpful, short exercises for readers to try at home. Any mother who picks it up and follows the carefully-planned instructions will be able to call herself a mother-writer by the final page."
—Hope Edelman, best-selling author of MOTHERLESS DAUGHTERS

"The only reason I’ve ever wanted to visit Minnesota was for the chance to meet Kate Hopper and take one of her writing classes. Thankfully, Kate has translated her successful USE YOUR WORDS writing class onto paper and created a personal, practical guide for any mother writer. Grounding each lesson with terrific essays and poems by a wide variety of writers, Kate offers a solid education in creative writing plus a range of approachable assignments, designed to make readers put the book down and start writing.”
—Caroline Grant, Editor-in-Chief of Literary Mama and Co-editor of Mama, PhD: Women Write About Motherhood and Academic Life

“Kate Hopper knows: how to inspire the budding writer to find her voice and her truth; what it takes to keep that same writer going; and the words of advice and inspiration every writer needs to hear. In Hopper’s assured, experienced hands, women and mothers will glean not only the all-important elements of craft, they will feel emboldened and prepa...

From the Back Cover Writing Is an Act of Discovery

Motherhood inspired the powerful prose of Anne Lamott, Susan Cheever, Ayelet Waldman and Alice Walker, launching them, and many others, to the top of bestseller lists. Award-winning writer Kate Hopper has spent nearly a decade teaching women to write down the bones of motherhood. Now, in Use Your Words, her expert guidance will encourage you to write the stories you need to write, whether your goal is to blog, publish magazine articles, or pen the next blockbuster memoir.

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